I began writing this post that fateful Friday night, when the U.S. Supreme Court voted for Marriage Equality. It has taken me this long because I have been determined to find the right words to create and share with you an eloquent and thoughtful post on the topic. I’ve yet to come up with anything better than the post I made to my personal Facebook page.
I’m going to say my peace here, just once, and then be done with it. I don’t like making people upset and I don’t like arguing.
I’m am 100% glad that the Marriage Equality/legalize Gay Marriage thing passed. Because I believe that all humans should have equal rights, regardless of color, sex, orientation, religion, employment, welfare, status. I believe that we should not run this country based in an outdated text. I do not discriminate or hate on anyone, especially religion, but I believe it is the close-minded, backward, hateful, or bigoted people that can make this world a harder place to live in. I’m glad that gay people have the right to marry. When I think of the possibility that someone could tell me I shouldn’t be with who I am because it’s “not right” or “against the bible” I don’t get angry. I get sad. Because when you love someone you should be able to marry them. Even if it’s just a piece of paper, even if a whole world of people think your going to Hell. Because if it’s this life that I’m worried about. Not the one after. And I try my best to be the best and have the best life I can while I’m living.
This law passing isn’t going to cause the end of the world. I promise it will go on spinning, the same as it always has during every major disaster, during ever heartbreaking event, during every mass casualty. I’m sorry but if Jesus didn’t come back when people were suffering (they still are) he’s not coming because gay people have the right to marry each other.
In the meantime, I’ll love my husband, my daughter. I’ll love myself and my family and my friends and live my life how I see fit. Should something come around that offends me and I think is wrong, I will speak my peace and let it go, because my personal beliefs do not affect the whole. My choices do not changes laws.
This isn’t ruining the sanctity of marriage this isn’t going to destroy its meaning. And it sure isn’t going to affect anyone else’s marriage. I promise, your relationship will remain the same.
So here’s my conclusion. Love one another. Respect one another’s wishes, opinions, beliefs. You aren’t being forced to accept them, just love and respect each other. There is good and this world, and it’s not strictly limited to Christians.”
The picture I’ve included above, of the majestic bearded gentleman, is a friend of mine, named Andrew Preston. Andrew, whom I’ve known for many years now, and have never met in person (not yet, anyway) is a gay man. He’s also a talented musician, a kind soul, and not only someone I feel I can relate too, but someone who (and he doesn’t know this) I feel a motherly pride for. There. I said it!
When I heard Friday’s nation shattering news, via Facebook (*eyeroll*), he was one of the people I thought of. I was happy, that not only Andrew and the handful of gay people I know but a whole country full of people could legally wed, just like straight people.
I believe in my heart of hearts and my sometimes confused mind that there shouldn’t have even been a question in whether or not to allow it. It should have been allowed all along.
Sadly, despite the law, there’s still a large percentage of the population that would still deny this right. And their argument is based off of the Bible.
I am neither religious not political. I’m registered to vote, but I pay so very little attention to politics that voting would be a disservice. I don’t consider myself a Christian, because I firmly believe in nothing. I have ideas, and I have hopes, but those are as concrete as a bowl if unset pudding.
I however do not discriminate not judge based on people’s opinions, politic parties, or religious affiliations.
But I cannot bring myself to believe in a God who would have his people preach hate, damnation, or hellfire upon other humans. Nor can I allow myself the idea that said God would condone the denial of such a simple right.
There are people in this world that think allowing gay men and women the right to marry would destroy the sanctity of marriage. Like, how? How does it destroy the sactity of marriage? Two gay men, legally binding themselves to one another, pledging their love, will not destroy the meaning of a marriage between a heterosexual couple.
Yes. The bible tells you so. But when was that written? How many sins would you be breaking, if you followed it to the letter?
Here’s a question I’ve often asked myself: if it were wrong, why would Ge allow it? If allowing the marriage equality law to pass were the wrong decision, couldn’t God have divinely stopped it from passing?
Shoot. I don’t know.
One thing I can’t help but remember: the day before the SCOTUS voted yes, I saw a whole slew of rainbow pictures. Sure, 90% of my part of the state was being showered at that point, but I’m odd in that I see meaning in the strangest places. Perhaps those rainbows (also a symbol of Gay Pride) were a sign. Chill out, folks. All will be well.
Despite the #LoveWins trend that filled feeds across the Internet, despite the step in the right direction for equality across the spectrum (cause rainbows) I fear that this nation, this world, has a very long way to go, before any of us can be worthy.
And honestly, if heaven is a place where kind souls like Andrew aren’t accepted because of who they love, well I’m not sure that’s where I want to be.